Gay Tantra

So What Exactly is the Meaning of Tantra? © Dax Michaels

Should we study Shiva and Shakti and all the other assorted Hindu deities?

Should we study them in conjunction with Christianity and Judaism as well as Islam and somehow try to extract a definition from "le melange entiere"?

If we do this we will become more confused than ever. We must ask ourselves why are we Jewish, Christian, Moslem? Probably because our parents were Jewish, Christian, Moslem.

Tantra is merely being all that we can be. No, I don't mean joining the army but merely getting in touch with our true selves, by acting on our true inner feelings.

Remember a child scratches and/or touches himself...and things whenever he wants. For instance the child may reach for a flame and would probably severely burn himself if not stopped. Logic would have it to stop the child from hurting himself at all costs. Say that child were to reach for his crotch instead of the flame. There are some parents/legal guardians who would scold the child for doing that as much they would had he reached for the flame. Burning ones hand can be a very traumatic event. Why should touching ones crotch (which emits only pleasure) be seen as being as harmful?

If the child burns his hand in the flame once, he will probably never do so again. If the child touches himself and he feels pleasure, he will do so repeatedly. By stopping him from experiencing pleasure, you begin to confuse him. So the faulty programming begins.

Scene 2: Junior's first Christmas where he gets many gifts. He is expected to be happy for receiving these gifts. "So, happiness and pleasure can only be purchased?" goes through the child's mind. He's feeling good so he begins to touch himself again. Immediately the parents stop him from doing this and say, "bad boy, we don't do this". "Yeah, OK, so your telling me that I can only be happy when getting gifts that were purchased?

Scene 3:

The years go on and the child becomes painfully aware of the fact that he's being indoctrinated into the "wonderful" world of Catholicism. Here the priests, bishops, and the pope himself drill into his head that the only manner in which he could justify sexual pleasure is in a pro-creative, monogamous, heterosexual relationship. Masturbation is a no-no (surely he'll go to hell for that one)
Homosexuality is "verboten" (he'll definitely go to hell for that one)
Birth Control: NO NO NO
Abortion: Absolutely not!
The rhythm method ???

Having sex to enlarge the population may have been fine a a time when the birth rate equaled the mortality rate. That however is not the case today. Our planet's population is presently growing in an exponential manner, but the Earth's size is not.

The answer to the whole problem is Tantra and tantric Sex.

Due to the imposed limits and restraints of organized religion, the population as a whole has only begun to tap the iceberg as far as sex, sexual energy, and sexual gratification go.

Tantric Sex could play a very big role in the 21st century. Overpopulation is a major problem so people must be shown how to cultivate & tap into this sexual energy in positive, mutually healing, Non-Procreative ways.

Another major drawback that the teachings of organized religion have brought us is the idea that we need a partner with whom we can attain sexual gratification & fulfillment. This is not the case, and by this I'm not just referring to masturbation. Sexual energy has a great depth which spans across many the many regions of the composite being.

After years of study at the university of life's experiences I have found that the complete cultivation and harnessing of one's sexual energy can bring about many great inner & exterior changes.

Now when seeking to explore ones sexual energy, one must first get in touch with his sexual energy and find new and creative ways of stimulating himself and others. For example, I myself am a very non-routine individual. I survived the routines of grammar school high school and college and upon graduation said I'm free. Most if not all of my friends immediately put themselves back into routines by getting jobs with companies doing routine things. I've go to say that most of them are doing "routinely" well for themselves and when you ask them how it's going, they respond with, "It's always the same old routine". When asked if they are happy, they respond with, "I should be happy, I've got the house, the wife, the good job, the lexus....BUT"

It is also important to mention that from the pace of life and the stress that it places upon us, many people have become sexually numb if not dysfunctional. In order to re-awaken their sexual energy they have enlightened their sexual repetoir through so-called fetishes. The most common fetish seems to be bondage and discipline. The reason being that in some relationships the men have become so intertwined in their careers that they have failed to find time for each other. The one may be so busy in his home office that he fails to notice his partner's desperate pleas for attention.
Bondage and discipline when used properly can help to greatly enhance a relationship. For example when I work with young client of mine (he's 23 so...) He needs to be forcefully shown that someone cares for him and that he shouldn't do dumb things (such as drugs, drinking and driving, unsafe sex...). When he does these dumb things he gets his hands tied behind his back and a damn good paddlin'. He is in pain from both the paddlin' and from having a fully erect 8" without a release. He promises to behave and appreciates the fact that someone is taking the effort. His problem was an overpowering mother, a powerless father and a policy of not hitting the children, just ignoring them. So when he gets a paddlin' from me he's indirectly getting the message that someone cares.

This may be rough and it may at times be physically painful. but in this world of untruths, corporate bullshit lingo (such as "thank you for sharing" TRANSLATION: I do NOT give a fuck! and "let me check my schedule and I'll call you back in a few" TRANSLATION: I ain't FUCKIN' interested!!!!) and flat out lies, it gives people something tangible i.e. something that they can actually "feel"...OUCH!

Bondage and Discipline have become an alarm clock of sorts. People you meet in singles bars give out phony names, phony numbers, and probably all they've told you is the biggest bunch of horse manure. That's a lot to build a relationship on right?

So how does using B&D aid in experiencing Tantra and Tantric bodywork? Simple my dear Watson. In order to do a B&D scene, the therapist and the client must first meet and determine if they really want to work together (this usually takes me 60 seconds). Second, the client must clearly portray his desired outcome. The therapist tells him of the options available upon which the client gives feedback and the session begins. Remember, the goal of a Tantric Massage / Bodywork session is to heighten the body's sexual energy and maintain it at that elevated state for increased periods of time.

Now, before we get into these scenarios which are more for working in groups or couples, we must first learn how to love ourselves. No I'm not talking about just being happy with yourself (because there are people who claim to be are just "copping-out" for fear of being discovered)